Kissing our Loved Ones Hi & Goodbye
Give me a kisse, and to that kisse a score;
Then to that twenty, adde a hundred more;
A thousand to that hundred; so kisse on,
To make that thousand up a million;
Treble that million, and when that is done,
Let's kisse afresh, as when we first begun.
~Robert Herrick, "To Anthea (III)"
“No sooner met but they looked; no sooner looked but they loved; no sooner loved but they sighed; no sooner sighed but they asked one another the reason; no sooner knew the reason but they sought the remedy,” said William Shakespeare. Today we are looking out of weary eyes because the world is a dangerous place to live in. All around us we see the effects of what we feared as a nation. That war would come to us . Before we as humans can enjoy world peace we got to get a hold on how to cement our common every-day relationships with love, understanding and affection.
Most of us take kissing for granted. What is a kiss? A kiss is a secret lip-to-mouth instead of ear. I think most of us think we need to be hard-wired to be a good kisser. After all, two heads are always better than one when it comes to kissing. Those few of us who know they are good kissers are all puffed up in arrogance and self-indulgence. Sometimes lovers forget kissing takes two pair of eager or at least consenting lips. Of course, there is also the French habit of kissing the hands of your beloved first; after all, we’ve got to start somewhere. Some think we have to practice to be perfect which might be true. I’ve found in my many years of kissing that no amount of practice can help a bad kisser. "Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves, said Albert Einstein.
Perhaps talking about what we like first would enhance what we do later, as well as making sure we don’t have bad breath or exhibit bad manners beforehand. When we’re young, we might start out on fresh fruit like a peach, progressing to warm blood filled limbs of our best friends forearms, laughing all the time or lol, as the kids would say. Once we understand kissing sometimes takes practice, we can begin enjoying lip-to-lip interaction as an exciting new means to begin and end the day with. We all agree touch is the mother of the senses and kissing is a specialized form of intimate contact for all of us. Kisses performed in an affectionate manner add to our soul’s estate. They add to our self-esteem and our own vision of ourselves as being lovable and willing to cultivate lovers. A kiss is always a credit because it is always profitable when returned. I imagine we're all better off locking our minds together in love rather than war. e.e. Cummings says, "kisses are a better fate than wisdom."
But we all look forward to our first kiss and last kiss of the day. They can be romantic and terrifying at the same time depending on our maturity level. For many of us we imagine our first kiss as our first close encounter. No other but a kiss can bestow the gift of eternal youth for the elderly. As I’m in the winter of my years, I haven’t been partaking lately but that doesn’t mean we elders don’t still like to be kissed. In the case of a child kissing his best friend it comes natural. Children have yet to learn to barter their affections. Preteens and teenagers on the other hand first find kissing a means to an end. In the case of grandma kissing grandpa, most wimpy and quickly delivered pecks-on-the-cheek can still deliver a message of loyal affection, gratitude, compassion, sympathy, intense joy and at times even profound sorrow. Don't forget we parents, grandparents and elderly find unsought kisses and hugs highly pleasurable and with profound gratitude. A popular proverb says A kiss without a hug is like a flower without the fragrance.
Some kisses demand too much in return. We have to be careful to weight the consequences of kissing when not in love. It is thought humans invented kissing. Most infants begin their oral fixation by suckling either their mom’s breasts or its replacement. We give our children candy on a stick, and our teenagers begin their journey by blowing kisses or holding hands. Kissing leads our children to maturity, the sad and lonely to the feeling of being wanted and needed, and we often kiss our elders goodbye, sending them to the angels. In Genesis, it is written that when Jacob died, “Joseph fell upon his father’s face and wept upon and kissed him.”
A kiss is not just a kiss. There are some amazing and surprising benefits of kissing. Yes, it definitely feels good, but there’s definitely proof that a kiss is not just a kiss. There are real wholesome and healthy benefits to kissing, and some of these might even surprise you.
You may think this is an odd subject for today when so many have been taking part in memorials all across the world due to 911. So many of us are using our kisses to say Hi and Goodbye to their loved ones killed on that fateful day. Even the act of kissing the Steele Cross that fell into the rubble is considered by most as a holy act of affection, respect and love for those departed. Unfortunately, a kiss is that thing for which the demand is higher than the supply for all of us. You might think of a kiss as the persecution for the child, ecstasy for the youth and homage for the old. An old Chinese Proverb says, "Kissing is like drinking salted water. You drink, and your thirst increases." Democracy is like that. Once you experience freedom, your thirst increases not only for yourself but for others less fortunate. Kisses are like tears, the only real ones are the ones you can't hold back. My prayers go to all of you in these grave times.
Read also: http://www.psychologytoday.com/collections/201107/the-legacy-911/what-art-therapy-learned-september-11th
By Joyce White
www.wingedforhealing.com
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How Much is Too Much Texting?
How Much is Too Much Texting?
Text messaging has become an unstoppable phenomenon but how much is too much texting? As a media sociologist and grandmother, I am fascinated with it. What's so important that one needs to be available and in touch at all times? If you’re a grandparent like me, you cherish every conversational-minute you get to be with your grandchildren, your family and your friends. Unfortunately, texting and tweeting has become an annoying eater of my conversational moments with others.
I find it plain rude when we finally get one-on-one time with our busy children and grandchildren, and they are carrying on a conversation by texting, ignoring me completely.
According to a CBS report from Philadelphia, “Teenagers are becoming addicted to texting, according to a new study. In fact experts are saying being hooked on texting can be like being addicted to drugs.”
Regardless of where they are, teenagers seem to need to text. Statistics show 80% of all high school students own a cell phone. And the rate of texting has sky rocketed 600 percent in three years. The average teen sends 3,000 texts a month.
One student even admitted it: “I think that it’s just like a drug, once you get hooked on to it, you can’t let go. It’s like whenever I open my eyes the first thing I look at is my phone.”
Like food, technology is a crucial part of our daily lives. It can be great for emergencies and some occupations to stay in touch but it is important to evaluate how often and to what extent you use these technologies.
Most of us have found texting and tweeting while walking is stupid. As a matter of fact, not long ago on the television, the general public laughed at a young woman who was walking a mall, one Reebok in front of the other, so involved in her texting that she tumbled into a water pool display. The outcome? She wanted to sue the Mall! Now, that is denial and deep addiction.
We all agree freedom to communicate is a precious commodity not everyone in the world enjoys. Many fellow Iranian Tweeters have their bios, and messages, blacked out by the Iranian government. How lucky are we with the freedom to communicate with who we choose, where we choose and when we choose.
Most of us engage with technology in a healthy manner. But once that interaction creates negative consequences in multiple parts of a person’s life, we have a co- dependence problem. Anything that is injurious to us or illegal is a stupid preoccupation, say the experts.
Below are five ways to build a healthier relationship with technology:
• When face-to-face with family, friends and loved ones, turn off phone
• Turn off the phone and television at the dinner table,
• Make dinner a special occasion always
• Turn off phones once or twice a day and go for a walk, or play with your pets, pay attention to your loved ones, engage in meaningful moments with those around you, by giving them your primary
attention
• Keep work at work! If you have to be on 24/7, have your phone alert you to new message rather than check your emails every 10 minutes or so yourself!
• Identify your weakness, and curb back, enjoy the moments in life
• Turn phone off at night, it is not a replacement Teddy Bear
If you text or tweet a lot, you might want to consider how to avoid repetitive strain injury (RSI) from sending too many text messages. You can now wear the thumb-wrist wrapping support accessories, and make yourself looks like a tough-looking athlete as well as be alerted to the following:
• If texting starts to hurt. Stop. Use the other hand or call instead
• Vary the hand you use & Vary the digits you use
• Don’t text for more than a few minutes without a break
Researchers find that excessive texting and tweeting can cause changes in our dopamine levels. This is the part of the brain regulating rewards, punishments and euphoria, much the same as alcohol and drug use.
At American Family, you can crack the code for teen texting:
Text speech is designed to be quick and easy. Some common abbreviations -- think OMG (oh my God) and LOL (laughing out loud) -- are now part of our vernacular. But other codes, like PAW (parents are watching) and LMIRL (let's meet in real life) are a way to KPC (keep parent clueless) -- and add to texting's appeal.
Check out more codes in the texting dictionary below:
LOL = Laughing Out Loud
TTYL = Talk to You Later
BRB = Be Right Back
OMG = Oh My Goodness
WTF = What The F***
B2W = Back to Work
L8R = Later
PIR = Parents In Room
OTB = Off to Bed
^5 = High Five
CU = See You
Even savvy families who pay a monthly fee for text messaging are finding that there are other features that can blow a monthly budget. When you get the phone, they don't tell you that it's extra for text messaging, but most do. If you don't do your homework, and if you're not a responsible parent, you're going to fall into a trap.
Be forewarned, texting and tweeting are often, very similar to what you would see in a chemical addiction. More often than not, there’s something in a person’s life leading to this particular escape mechanism, like depression, social anxiety and/or dysfunction in the family; and, texting can become your Achilles’ heel.
Childhood obesity is rising as kids spend more with screens instead of outside playing. Other studies show a link between the rise in attention deficit disorder and increased technology use. Most of us agree there is nothing wrong with being connected; we who don’t text or tweet can even envy this networking ability.
But, it can be incredibly annoying when others use these devices every other minute. I imagine Texting and tweeting is kind of like fire. Fire can be a very useful thing or a very destructive thing; it depends on how you use it.
By Joyce White
www.wingedforhealing.com
Text messaging has become an unstoppable phenomenon but how much is too much texting? As a media sociologist and grandmother, I am fascinated with it. What's so important that one needs to be available and in touch at all times? If you’re a grandparent like me, you cherish every conversational-minute you get to be with your grandchildren, your family and your friends. Unfortunately, texting and tweeting has become an annoying eater of my conversational moments with others.
I find it plain rude when we finally get one-on-one time with our busy children and grandchildren, and they are carrying on a conversation by texting, ignoring me completely.
According to a CBS report from Philadelphia, “Teenagers are becoming addicted to texting, according to a new study. In fact experts are saying being hooked on texting can be like being addicted to drugs.”
Regardless of where they are, teenagers seem to need to text. Statistics show 80% of all high school students own a cell phone. And the rate of texting has sky rocketed 600 percent in three years. The average teen sends 3,000 texts a month.
One student even admitted it: “I think that it’s just like a drug, once you get hooked on to it, you can’t let go. It’s like whenever I open my eyes the first thing I look at is my phone.”
Like food, technology is a crucial part of our daily lives. It can be great for emergencies and some occupations to stay in touch but it is important to evaluate how often and to what extent you use these technologies.
Most of us have found texting and tweeting while walking is stupid. As a matter of fact, not long ago on the television, the general public laughed at a young woman who was walking a mall, one Reebok in front of the other, so involved in her texting that she tumbled into a water pool display. The outcome? She wanted to sue the Mall! Now, that is denial and deep addiction.
We all agree freedom to communicate is a precious commodity not everyone in the world enjoys. Many fellow Iranian Tweeters have their bios, and messages, blacked out by the Iranian government. How lucky are we with the freedom to communicate with who we choose, where we choose and when we choose.
Most of us engage with technology in a healthy manner. But once that interaction creates negative consequences in multiple parts of a person’s life, we have a co- dependence problem. Anything that is injurious to us or illegal is a stupid preoccupation, say the experts.
Below are five ways to build a healthier relationship with technology:
• When face-to-face with family, friends and loved ones, turn off phone
• Turn off the phone and television at the dinner table,
• Make dinner a special occasion always
• Turn off phones once or twice a day and go for a walk, or play with your pets, pay attention to your loved ones, engage in meaningful moments with those around you, by giving them your primary
attention
• Keep work at work! If you have to be on 24/7, have your phone alert you to new message rather than check your emails every 10 minutes or so yourself!
• Identify your weakness, and curb back, enjoy the moments in life
• Turn phone off at night, it is not a replacement Teddy Bear
If you text or tweet a lot, you might want to consider how to avoid repetitive strain injury (RSI) from sending too many text messages. You can now wear the thumb-wrist wrapping support accessories, and make yourself looks like a tough-looking athlete as well as be alerted to the following:
• If texting starts to hurt. Stop. Use the other hand or call instead
• Vary the hand you use & Vary the digits you use
• Don’t text for more than a few minutes without a break
Researchers find that excessive texting and tweeting can cause changes in our dopamine levels. This is the part of the brain regulating rewards, punishments and euphoria, much the same as alcohol and drug use.
At American Family, you can crack the code for teen texting:
Text speech is designed to be quick and easy. Some common abbreviations -- think OMG (oh my God) and LOL (laughing out loud) -- are now part of our vernacular. But other codes, like PAW (parents are watching) and LMIRL (let's meet in real life) are a way to KPC (keep parent clueless) -- and add to texting's appeal.
Check out more codes in the texting dictionary below:
LOL = Laughing Out Loud
TTYL = Talk to You Later
BRB = Be Right Back
OMG = Oh My Goodness
WTF = What The F***
B2W = Back to Work
L8R = Later
PIR = Parents In Room
OTB = Off to Bed
^5 = High Five
CU = See You
Even savvy families who pay a monthly fee for text messaging are finding that there are other features that can blow a monthly budget. When you get the phone, they don't tell you that it's extra for text messaging, but most do. If you don't do your homework, and if you're not a responsible parent, you're going to fall into a trap.
Be forewarned, texting and tweeting are often, very similar to what you would see in a chemical addiction. More often than not, there’s something in a person’s life leading to this particular escape mechanism, like depression, social anxiety and/or dysfunction in the family; and, texting can become your Achilles’ heel.
Childhood obesity is rising as kids spend more with screens instead of outside playing. Other studies show a link between the rise in attention deficit disorder and increased technology use. Most of us agree there is nothing wrong with being connected; we who don’t text or tweet can even envy this networking ability.
But, it can be incredibly annoying when others use these devices every other minute. I imagine Texting and tweeting is kind of like fire. Fire can be a very useful thing or a very destructive thing; it depends on how you use it.
By Joyce White
www.wingedforhealing.com
Monday, July 25, 2011
My Review Sleep before Evening
Sleep Before Evening [Paperback]
Magdalena Ball Print & Kindle
(Kindle Edition - Oct 8, 2010) - Kindle eBook
Sleep Before Evening by Magdalena Ball
$17.99
• Paperback: 296 pages
• Publisher: Bewrite Books (July 24, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1904492967
• ISBN-13: 978-1904492962
• www.compulsivereader.com/html
Magdalena Ball says in this drug fiction slice-of-life drama, you can find good and bad in everything that happened which meant there is no such thing as luck only perception. She obviously loves writing and has mastered quantum jumping from a poet to a brilliant novelist. Her narration whispers, never intrudes. Her metaphors sing like most good poetry; and her scenes leave you wanting more. The reader can not only feel but hear and see each emotion change from page to page, being more like an opera than a novel.
I’ve often wondered if it was wise for a poet to try novel writing. Obviously Magdalene has a talent for both. It amazes me that this is her first novel. It is that good. To be obscurely clearly is a real talent. When something can be read without effort like her scenes, you can be sure great effort has gone into its writing.
One of my favorite metaphors and there are many, she describes Marianne, the young protagonist, as swimming in an ocean of amniotic fluid, cradling and nourishing her. Another metaphor I enjoyed was…feeling Miles’ arms like long tendrils of a parasitic vein, snaking around her body, taking her breath and her life away. Later, she says…There is no heaven, no hell, but there is music…sounds, smells, taste, touch, there is always music.
I recommend this story to all families, teenagers and college students. This is not a typical drug fiction book but a classic work of art.
by Joyce White
Sculpting the Heart Book Reviews
www.wingedforhealing.com
My Review of Repulsion Thrust
• Paperback: 112 pages
• Publisher: Bewrite Books (December 3, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 9781906609306
• ISBN-13: 978-1906609306
• ASIN: 1906609306
http://www.compulsivereader.com/html/
eBook provided me by Magdalena Ball, author.
This book by Magdalena Ball is her first full length poetry collection of many varied subjects including, dogs, cats, math, tending gardens to evolving insects; she writes about healing.
In the Equinox, she says…the world opens her uterus and births the morning. Wonderful imagery in this and Pie in the Sky. I also enjoyed her Repulsion Thrust, the titled poem. From one poem to another she takes quantum leaps into a woman’s experiences with loving, living in an imperfect body, betrayal and eventual forgiveness.
In the titled poem, Repulsion Thrust, she writes: No silk is strong enough, For your anger, It isn’t yours really, It is mine, Genetic instructions, writ In your knit brows
Perhaps, Maggie and I both live in the gardens between the house of Science and the house of God; picking flowers from both makes us happy. Only the use of metaphors in poetry can lead us off into many very different lands of thought and gardens of comprehension.
In another poem, Black Dog One, Magdalene is waiting for a bus (this in itself is a metaphor for contemplating the passage of time; all is quiet except for the lonely howls of an old black dog neglected by his master; maybe, like most of us, she is feeling neglected and unloved herself;
in her poem, Faster-than-Light, she describes times passing by the sound of vocal cords no longer vibrating; what a great metaphor for the loneliness that comes with love lost!
In her poem, Omphalos , according to the ancient Greeks, Zeus, sent out two eagles to fly across the world to meet at the navel or the center of the world.
She writes how illness creeps across the brow and travels to the navel or center of our being; writing surely now… you know something about yourself!;
We all learn from adversity that we’re stronger when it comes to surviving that which effects to the core of our very being.
Black Dog Two reminds me how we humans are vulnerable to amnesia and Alzheimer’s when we age; how our childhood wounds are all reopened when we become our parents’ care keepers;
Assault by a Black Hole is like many of her poems - - not fiction-based. There is not much we can do but watch and be afraid, as the universe evicts some galaxies to make room for new ones. We’re all hoping earth will be spared intervention from the phenomena of the black holes and all their chaos.
I enjoyed the Idea Virus. Ideas are indeed, contagious like viruses. They crawl around the net waiting to land at an unsuspecting mailbox. The author says, tell me you want this, it won’t cost a thing, not up front anyway…
Maggie’s poetry is simple and easy to read. I’m not a scientist-type, so I read more love and womanly introspection in her poetry. The metaphors she uses may be space-age driven but what she doesn’t say is all about love, achieving wellness with forethought and love.
I am happy to recommend this awesome and varied collection to all ages, including families, teenagers and grandparents, with Five Stars for Amazon.
by Joyce White
Sculpting the Heart Book Reviews
www.wingedforhealing.com
http://www.amazon.com/Repulsion-Thrust-Magdalena-Ball/product-reviews/1906609306/ref=sr_1_1_cm_cr_acr_txt?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1
My Review for Mastro by Rachel Madorsky
Pages: A review of Maestro: Unveiling Karma and Reincarnation by Rachel Madorsky
Rachel's many patients seem to absorb her words, her energy, her electric wellness. Her book is kind of a diary packed with information to back up her beliefs. Her patients use her warmth, energy and clairvoyance for healing.
Reviewed by Joyce White
Maestro: Unveiling Karma and Reincarnation
by Rachel Madorsky
Avanty House
Paperback - Apr 16, 2011, $19.95, ISBN: 978-0-9705349-6-5
As a student of life, I find the title Maestro very interesting. The word Maestro is a title of extreme respect given to a master musician or a master in an artistic field, usually someone who listens with their mind’s eyes and ears; much like this author, historian, healer, and clairvoyant Rachel Madorsky.
I like the image of mankind given by Trifonov’s novel, The Other Life, that our human destinies resemble threads, and that human beings do not give in to death because they have an inborn sense of the infinite threads.
Rachel is also a historian who studies how we are destined to meet the same loved ones, relatives or friends over and over again. She tells us, “If we develop the skills and understanding to access the information about our karma and past lives, we are forewarned; and we may be able to correct many things that seem otherwise impossible to change.”
There is a growing audience today of all ages, who are not afraid of openly exploring the Unknown. The words “Know Thyself” keeps us all questioning why we were born, what is our purpose for living, and whether we will be rewarded or punished this time around?
Rachel's many patients seem to absorb her words, her energy, her electric wellness. Her book is kind of a diary packed with information to back up her beliefs. Her patients use her warmth, energy and clairvoyance for healing.
Many of us wonder why some preach, some teach, and some kill? To the questions can we beat our DNA or outfox our Karma, Rachel warns us that Karma is similar to a gun shot; once the bullet is fired, its consequences cannot be controlled (much like our tongue).
Abraham Lincoln’s quote at the beginning of her book says, “I claim not to have controlled events, but confess plainly that events have controlled me.” Rachel's one-on-one healing has given her insight into a world most of us know very little about.
My hope would be others do not fear their destiny but invest in their souls by studying Rachel’s books, Maestro, Create Your Own Destiny and Symphony of Your Karma.
I’d like to leave you with the lines "We live to have this time we live in…To have this life that we are looking for…To be the person of our life…Is life within itself our time?" by Nathaniel Madorsky, Rachel’s talented son.
Reviewed by Joyce White Sculpting the Heart Book Reviews
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Magdalena Ball: Guest blog: What is Creative Expression to you?
Magdalena Ball: Guest blog: What is Creative Expression to you?: "by Joyce White www.wingedforhealing.com Exploring creativity and creative expression in the arts are catalysts for healing & therapy. Rese..."
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